When your mate feels like your roommate

The path to love and through love is one that calls for awareness and nurturing.  The shiny newness of a partnership or marriage often wears away in time.  Routines set in, and what was once a glowing romance fades into a dull life with a roommate.

 Reversing Roommate Syndrome and creating the love relationship of your dreams involves four steps:

1. Awareness
2. Appreciation
3. Physical Connection

and

1. Self-Love

 To keep the unique emotional connection of a marriage or primary partnership vibrant, we must have our EYES OPEN.  Step outside your numbing routine and examine how you are feeling in your partnership.  Become AWARE.  What are your desires?  What are you missing?  What do you want more of?  Be with these questions and soak in the powerful answers that come to you.

 Now, move on to your partner.  Do not criticize or equally as awful, ignore your partner.  Write down what you appreciate about him or her.  Appreciation is a highly powerful acknowledgement that will shift both your feelings and your partner’s feelings.  You will become grateful for the qualities in your partner that you appreciate.  Your partner will feel loved and honored by your expression of appreciation.

 Spending time with your partner in close physical contact is the differentiating factor between having a roommate and having a spouse or love partner.  With heavy competition from obligatory responsibilities, couples cast off physical intimacy as frivolous. It ranks low on the to-do list.  Elevate physical intimacy to a form of communication.  It is the unique means to communicate with the one you chose to share your life and love with.

 Loving one’s self is the true pathway to loving another.  Do you love your body, your actions and words?  Do you take great care of yourself by fueling yourself properly? Do you use kind self-talk?  Embrace yourself as perfect and whole as you are.  Fill up with love, to you, from you.  Only when whole, can your marriage or love partnership launch out of Roommate Syndrome and into the intimate connection you desire.

 In conclusion, it is with awareness that you have the knowledge of what you want.  Being appreciative shifts your energy and that of your partners to a higher place.  Enjoying physical connection honors the union you have chosen.  And loving yourself is the key to bringing the best into your love relationship.  These steps work like magic!  Let's get started.  This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it .