Written by Carla Hugo | 20 February 2012

February 20, 2012

It's been ages since I've blogged.  I admit, I'm put off by technology and with my website, it takes a few steps to get to this blog page.  Enough to have me put it off.  Lately, I've been re-reading ScreamFree Marriage, by Hal Edward Runkel.  ScreamFree Marriage has been re-published under the title The Self-Centered Marriage.  I read ScreamFree Marriage and trained with Hal on the ScreamFree approach some time age.  I'm a huge fan of ScreamFree Parenting, Hal's first book.  The idea of becoming a calm and confident person, and bringing that forth into all of your relationships is one of the critical messages in his books.  I've got ScreamFree Marriage on my night table because marriage is the joining of 2 ever evolving people.  It is anything but stagnant and certainly something I need to stay fresh on.  One of my favorite quotes from The Self-Centered Marriage is, "The most successful couples are those who continually see themselves as two separate individuals, continually choosing to commingle, overlap, and join their lives."  Would love to know how you are bringing yourself into your marriage.

Written by Carla Hugo | 24 August 2010

One of my courses at Integrative Nutrition was on Ayurvedic medicine, lead by Dr. John Douillard.  The course was content rich and I can't wait to share more of this subject with you.  One side point brought up by Dr. Douillard was that many patients tell him they are, "fine" when asked how they feel.  Well, Dr. D shared an acronym for "fine "that I thought tells the story of many people who reply they are "fine."  Here goes:

Freaked out

Insecure

Neurotic

Emotional

Wow!  Now, I challenge you to come up with your own acronym for "Fine."   For me, I came up with:

Fabulous

Intuitive

NOW

Emotional

By NOW I mean, in the moment.  Living in the present.  It's all we've got!  By emotional, I mean - yeah...feeling my emotions and letting them guide me to my best choices and actions.  Share yours with me, This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it with FINE in the subject line.

Written by Carla Hugo | 13 August 2010

August 12, 2010  When a bird hits the window, thump, and silently falls onto the grass a wealth of life lessons emerged.  Yesterday morning, we heard the thud upon a family room window.  The dogs went crazy barking at the same spot.  I looked outside to see a tiny bird with it's wings askew, sprawled out in an unnatural position.  After my kids remained unmoved to help, I carefully exited by my front door, so as to keep my dogs at bay.  I grabbed a stick, in case poking this creature would somehow help, and made my way around back.  By this time, little bird had righted himself and his wings were nicely in place.  His eyes were open and busy.  I began using EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) and tapping on myself at the 10 tapping points.  I was speaking to little bird letting him know how dizzy he must feel, how confused he is right now.  I acknowledged his dismay.  I also looked at my watch, as I was wondering how long I'd be out here (selfish).  Then I began tapping with a more positive influence, after I had duly acknowledged little bird's stress.  Suddenly, he flapped and flew onto a nearby pine.  I was amazed.  This little guy, grey in color with an amazing yellow belly with a zig zag design of grey on top, had made it!  I ran to the side door and pleaded with my daughter to let me in - quickly!  I wanted to grab my camera and capture little bird's beauty.  I got the camera, turned it on inside so as not to startle little bird.  I snuck by the tree and to my surprise, he was waiting there for me.  I took 2 photos, one zoomed in extra close.  Here it is, but, if you want more on the life lessons learned from little bird,  check out my article at  http://ezinearticles.com/?expert=Carla_Hugo

 

 

 

Written by Carla Hugo | 04 August 2010

August 4, 2010 It's another hot and muggy day.  I just picked up my veggie and fruit share from www.purpledragon.com food coop.  Two weeks have flown by since our last share.  We've supplemented our PD with lots of greens from our garden, and a quick trip to the Bernardsville Farmer's market for some Jersey Corn.  Today is day 8 of a 9 day cleanse program I'm doing with some of my Isagenix friends.  Day 8 is a Cleanse Day.  That means I'm drinking the super-food drink, Cleanse for Life (www.cleansedforlife.com) by Isagenix.  So while I'm not eating the greens and fruits that arrived with my PD share, I am flooding my body with nutrients designed to target toxicity in my cells.  In blasting out the toxins, my Cleansed for Life is also targeting excess stored fat around my vital organs and helping to release that through all the body's natural systems.  I'm sharing about my cleanse day here, as a reminder to Me to indulge and enjoy this day of "cleaning house."  I intend to tap into my creativity and excess energy.  Believe it or not, while not digesting traditional food our body becomes more energized.  Tomorrow is a successive cleanse day for me.  This allows the cleansing drink to get to deep level toxins in my body.  By Friday, I'll surely be beaming clean!

Written by Carla Hugo | 29 July 2010

It's late July and summer is flying by.  Managing my business, my childrens' schedules, the household chores and my education have been keeping me busy.  I'm in the flow of summer and feeling more relaxed about "getting things don."  I'm loving my Professional Training Program with IIN (Institute for Integrative Nutrition) and am adding more raw foods to our diet.  Raw is perfect for these hot summer days.  To help make summer last, join me in practicing Presence and really being where you are.

Written by Carla Hugo | 25 May 2010

My coaching sessions with clients last week seemed to have a common theme.  A few clients noticed my listening skills, and how I was able to listen to what they said and listen for what they did not say.  I also made connections to things shared early on in the coaching session and things that came up more recently.  What makes me able to listen and connect with my clients in a way they are unaccustomed to in other relationships?  A clue is, you can find the answer within the word LISTEN.  It's SILENT. 

Yes, being silent, not just with my mouth, but with my mind, gives my listening skills Super-Powers!  Often when we are conversing with family members or friends, our minds are racing with thoughts of what to say next, what we need to go off and do, and when we can move on.  I do that too!

But, when coaching a client, I am privileged to be in the state of silent-open-mind.  Try being in that space and it will be true gift that you give to your loved one and to yourself.  Let me know how you like it!

Written by Carla Hugo | 18 May 2010

May 18, 2010   I received this quotation today, 

"Bring into play the almighty power within you, so that on the
stage of life you can fulfill your high destined role."
— Paramahansa Yogananda: was an Indian yogi and teacher

And it reminds me of my favorite quote by Marianne Williamson, 

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us..."

Where are you holding back today?  What can you do to be in alignment with your authentic self,  regardless of what others may think of you?  This is your point of power.  Go for it!

 

Written by Carla Hugo | 17 May 2010

May 17, 2010 - This weekend, Darren and I moved the seedlings from their sunny spot in the family room and planted them in the garden.  Along with these, we planted many seeds, using the Square Foot Gardening technique.  I guess planting a garden is a measure of faith.  While we used a scientific approach, thanks to Darren, and laid out all the seedlings and seeds according to a predetermined plan, there is so much to leave up to nature.  I intend to photograph our garden in it's current embryonic state.  I'm working on moving my emotions from doubt (that anything at all will grow), to hope (that there will be some productivity) to faith and joy at the process and the outcome.  Gardening is a great metaphor for life!

Written by Carla Hugo | 17 May 2010

May 17, 2010 - Check out http://www.babybites.com/05/12/whos-more-exhausted-how-to-win-the-contest-in-your-marriage/

and view my article on Who's More Exhausted - and end the contest in your marriage.  You'll find some great tips in the article that I'm happy to explore further with you on a coaching call.  Let me know what you like about the babybites site.  I'm sure you'll find many useful tips!  Enjoy.

Written by Carla Hugo | 11 May 2010

May 10, 2010 Tonight I facilitated a Peaceful Parenting Teleconference to a few parents on the leading edge.  When is a parent on the leading edge?  When they raise their awareness that there is something different they can do to create a better experience at home.  Notice how I didn't say, there's something different their kids can do?  The topics I covered tonight were Control, Consequences and Self-Care.  Join me on the leading edge.  I'd love to share some of the techniques I've learned from Hal Runkel, author of ScreamFree Parenting, coupled with other techniques I'm trained in.  I'm passionate about helping others live a life they love.  A great first step is learning to become emotional-reactivity free!  On the leading edge, we sometimes teeter.  Yet, it's the best place to be when you're evolving.  Join me next time, of just let me know now if you're ready to explore.